Do Engagement Rings Have to Be Diamonds? A Modern Guide to Meaningful Alternatives

Do Engagement Rings Have to Be Diamonds? A Modern Guide to Meaningful Alternatives

Once upon a time, the answer was “yes.”
Today, the answer is: absolutely not.

Diamonds have long been the go-to stone for engagement rings — a tradition heavily shaped by clever advertising campaigns, particularly in the 20th century. But times have changed. The modern couple is asking deeper questions: What feels right for us? What aligns with our values, our aesthetic, our story?

At Diamond Lab, we believe the most meaningful ring is the one that feels personal — not traditional by default. So, let’s explore the world beyond diamonds, and help you decide what kind of engagement ring truly suits you.

Why Diamonds Became the Default (and Why It’s Changing)

The idea that “a diamond is forever” was solidified by a 1947 De Beers campaign — and it stuck. Diamonds became a symbol of everlasting love and status. But much of that association was manufactured.

Today’s couples are more informed. They care about:

• Ethical sourcing

• Value for money

• Uniqueness and personal meaning

• Environmental impact

As a result, diamond alternatives — especially lab-grown diamonds and moissanite — are not only accepted, they’re celebrated.

Lab Diamonds: Same Look, Smarter Choice

Let’s be clear: lab-grown diamonds are real diamonds. They are chemically, physically, and optically identical to mined diamonds — the only difference is the origin.

💡 Fun fact: Lab diamonds are often clearer and more affordable because their growth environment is controlled and ethical.

So if you want the timeless brilliance of a diamond without the environmental or ethical baggage, lab-grown is your perfect fit. And yes — they’re stunning, durable, and luxurious.

Explore our lab diamond engagement rings.

Moissanite: The Most Brilliant Diamond Alternative

If you’re open to a non-diamond stone altogether, moissanite is a game-changer. Originally discovered in a meteor crater, it’s one of the most brilliant gemstones on Earth — with a fiery sparkle that rivals even the finest diamonds.

• More brilliance than diamonds (higher refractive index)

• More ethical and affordable — great value for luxury

• Extremely durable (9.25 Mohs scale)

• Distinctive rainbow sparkle

It’s also popular among minimalist couples, ethical consumers, and those who prefer maximum visual impact at a fraction of the cost.

Learn more: Moissanite Engagement Rings

Coloured Gemstones: A Bold, Romantic Statement

More couples are also turning to sapphires, emeralds, and birthstones to make their engagement ring uniquely theirs.

• Sapphires: Royal, timeless, and available in white, blue, pink, yellow, and more.

• Emeralds: Rich in colour, steeped in symbolism — perfect for a vintage-inspired or bohemian look.

• Tourmaline, Garnet, Aquamarine, Alexandrite, and more: Meaningful, vibrant, and personal.

💡 Did you know? Prince William gave Kate Middleton a sapphire engagement ring — a tribute to Princess Diana’s iconic piece.

Customising your engagement ring with a coloured gem can make it deeply personal — a tribute to heritage, love, or individuality.

Start a custom design and we’ll source the perfect stone for your story.

Engagement Ring ≠ Diamond Anymore

Let’s talk plainly: the ring is about your love, not a price tag or tradition.

So what matters most?

• Is it beautiful to you?

• Does it feel authentic to your relationship?

• Does it reflect your style and values?

For many modern couples, the answer is moissanite. For others, a custom sapphire ring tells a better story. Some still prefer a classic lab-grown diamond. And some skip a stone altogether.

The choice is deeply personal — and we’re here to help you feel confident in it.

Real Clients, Real Stories

Ella & Sam (Perth):
“We chose a pear-shaped moissanite ring because we wanted something unique and ethically made. I still get compliments every day.”

Priya & Alex (Melbourne):
“I always dreamed of a sapphire ring. Diamond Lab helped us create a deep blue cushion cut design that felt regal but modern.”

Daniel (Sydney):
“I was set on a diamond until I saw the moissanite sparkle in person. The fire was unbelievable — and we could upgrade to platinum too.”

Final Thoughts: It’s Your Ring

Tradition is beautiful — but only when it means something to you. Don’t feel pressured to follow a standard that doesn’t reflect your values, style, or budget.

At Diamond Lab, we believe your engagement ring should be a reflection of your relationship: thoughtful, intentional, and built to last.

Whether you choose a lab diamond, moissanite, or a vibrant gemstone — we’re here to guide you through every step.

💍 Book a consultation or start designing a ring that’s unmistakably yours.

FAQs: Do Engagement Rings Have to Be Diamonds?

Can I propose with moissanite instead of a diamond?
Absolutely. Moissanite is a popular choice with stunning brilliance and durability. It’s also more ethical and affordable.

Will a non-diamond ring still look luxurious?
Yes. With expert design, high-quality stones, and elegant settings, non-diamond rings can look just as — if not more — luxurious.

Do coloured gemstones last as long as diamonds?
Most high-quality gemstones like sapphires and rubies are durable enough for daily wear. Our team can help you choose the right gem for longevity.

Is it okay to break from tradition?
It’s more than okay — it’s encouraged. The ring should feel right to you, not society.

Can I mix stones in one ring?
Yes! Our custom designs often include two-stone “Toi et Moi” styles, birthstones, or side accents. The result is something entirely yours.