The Toi et Moi Engagement Ring: Two Stones, One Love Story

The Toi et Moi Engagement Ring: Two Stones, One Love Story

Some love stories are too powerful for a single stone. That’s the essence of the Toi et Moi engagement ring — a timeless style that celebrates two souls, side by side.

French for “you and me,” Toi et Moi rings feature two gemstones set together, often in contrasting cuts or colours. Worn by icons like Jackie Kennedy and more recently Megan Fox, this romantic design has captured hearts for centuries. At Diamond Lab, we help modern couples turn this meaningful setting into a bespoke masterpiece — using ethical lab-grown diamonds or moissanite.

In this guide, we’ll walk you through the history, design variations, customisation ideas, and tips for choosing your own two-stone engagement ring.

The Romantic History Behind Toi et Moi Rings

The style dates back to 1796, when Napoleon Bonaparte proposed to Joséphine de Beauharnais with a Toi et Moi ring — a pear-shaped sapphire and diamond nestled together. Since then, the two-stone motif has symbolised unity, balance, and partnership.

But while the roots are historic, the Toi et Moi ring is far from old-fashioned. It’s now one of the most stylish and meaningful modern engagement ring trends, combining personal storytelling with bold design freedom.

What Makes a Toi et Moi Ring Special?

Unlike traditional engagement rings that focus on a single stone, the Toi et Moi setting allows for two distinct gemstones — each representing an individual in the relationship. This opens up endless creative possibilities, such as:

• Two different cuts: Think oval and emerald, or pear and radiant.

• Two different stones: Lab diamond paired with moissanite, or a coloured birthstone beside a white diamond.

• Two equal stones or one larger centrepiece paired with a smaller one.

The meaning is as flexible as the design: twin flames, two hearts, harmony in contrast, or simply a celebration of love that doesn’t follow a single script.

Stone Combinations That Tell a Story

At Diamond Lab, many of our clients choose stones that reflect their relationship journey or personalities. Some elegant and popular pairings include:

• Lab diamond + moissanite – Similar sparkle with subtle contrast

• Emerald cut + oval cut – Structured and soft elements in balance

• Pear + round – A flowing teardrop shape alongside classic symmetry

• Two moissanites in different shapes – An affordable yet bold statement

• Lab diamond + birthstone – Personalised with meaning and colour

💡 Tip: If you want both stones to match in brilliance, stick with lab-grown diamonds or moissanites of the same cut family. If contrast is your goal, mix a step-cut (like emerald) with a brilliant-cut (like oval or cushion).

Our Most Loved Toi et Moi Ring Styles

Although fully customisable, these designs are favourites among our clients:

• Twist Band Toi et Moi: A flowing band that curves around each stone

• Floating Stones Design: The gems appear to float above the finger on a minimal claw setting

• Bypass Setting: The band splits and arcs around each stone, creating an open, airy look

• Bezel or Half-Bezel Style: For a sleek, protective look with a modern twist

We only use claw prongs at Diamond Lab — never outdated standard prongs — to maximise light and elegance in every setting.

Customising Your Own Toi et Moi Ring

When you design a Toi et Moi ring at Diamond Lab, you’re not picking from a preset list — you’re co-creating a piece that reflects your story.

Our Custom Jewellery Design process lets you choose:

• Stone type: Lab-grown diamond, moissanite, or both

• Stone shape: Mix and match your favourites

• Metal: 14K or 18K yellow, white, rose gold, or platinum

• Band style: Delicate, bold, twisted, split, or pavé-accented

• Height and width: Adjust for comfort and profile

• Hidden accents: Add a third gem or birthstones inside the band

Our expert CAD team will render your design so you can approve every detail before production begins.

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Frequently Asked Questions

What does “Toi et Moi” mean?
“Toi et Moi” is French for “you and me.” It represents two lovers joining together, often with two distinct gemstones set side-by-side in one ring.

Are Toi et Moi rings durable for daily wear?
Yes — especially when crafted with secure claw prongs and high-quality materials. Our rings are designed for lifelong wear with premium craftsmanship.

How long does a custom Toi et Moi ring take to make?
Lab diamond rings typically take 40 days from CAD approval. Moissanite designs are often ready in 2–3 weeks.

Can I choose coloured gemstones for a Toi et Moi ring?
Absolutely. Many clients opt for birthstones, sapphires, emeralds, or pink diamonds to personalise one of the stones.

Is this style more expensive than a traditional solitaire?
Not necessarily. The cost depends on the size and type of stones. Using moissanite or smaller stones can keep the price very reasonable.

Final Thoughts: When One Stone Just Isn’t Enough

A Toi et Moi ring isn’t just a trend — it’s a deeply symbolic design that speaks to modern love. Whether you're celebrating a love story filled with contrast, balance, or shared growth, this style gives you the freedom to make something truly yours.

At Diamond Lab, we help you create an heirloom-worthy piece that tells your story beautifully — and ethically.

💎 Ready to begin? Book your consultation or start designing your custom ring today.